The Problem: You want to change your mind—to stop beating yourself up, to stop being afraid, and to stop spiraling into worry or negativity. You want to change your self-talk and emotions to feel better about yourself.
Unfortunately, you can’t just change your thoughts to change your mind. What neuroscientists now know about how the brain operates proves that self talk doesn’t completely work.* It is not possible to just think your way to a new attitude.
This
is a blog devoted to discussing how we as women feel about our
bodies, ourselves. I’ve always had a love/hate relationship with
mine. Mostly hate.
I’ve been athletic my whole life so I prized my body for it’s agility and know-how to move about on it’s own, but didn’t gave this much thought.
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If I were to give an award for a big beautiful butt Serena Williams would be my choice. That gal can really weigh in on the topic, if you know what I mean. And I’m not the only one who thinks so. Check out ESPN the Magazine’s The Body Issue where the glossy Williams graces the cover.
Who thought up the voting for best breasts poll? You can vote on who has the biggest and best rack from gross to gorgeous on the Huffington Post, and plenty of people have.
What woman in her right mind wants people to evaluate her hooters?
David Roche is the pastor of the Church of 80% Sincerity. He has a severe facial deformity that people don’t notice so much after he speaks for a while and they get over the shock of it and see his radiance. He says that people with facial deformities wear their shadow on the outside whereas the rest of us wear it on the inside.
As you all know by now I stripped, went totally buff, naked, nude, no panties, all-natural, at a friend’s house as an experiment. Many of you wrote in on other social networks about that.
I’d love to hear about a body experiment you’ve done,
or….
Summer nights are quite balmy here in Marin. The upcoming Indian summer promises to be a warpath of high temps and scalding sunshine. After being a fog friendly San Francisco Girl these past 25 years – I’m adjusting to the new climate and dramatic wardrobe differences. Even my sleeping attire has changed.
I’m not.
Last week I performed an experiment. I took off my clothes at my friends house in front of her and her 15 year old daughter.
Why? Because I want to feel completely unencumbered by my body.
What do you see when you gaze into a full length mirror? At nearly 51, I see a body that has curves and waves where 30 years ago, there were more planes. I wear a size 12 where once upon a time, a size 5 prom dress slid easily over my frame. In my teens and into early 20’s, I was a swimmer and then became a lifeguard and swim team coach.
Our self image begins once we become aware we are separate from our parents. So what they think, say and do we naturally imitate. Often messages from our parents are transmitted unconsciously. But it doesn’t have to be this way. Check out this article with advice from Dr. Brian Alman on how conscious parenting can instill a strong sense of self for your children.
My neighbor told me he thought I looked better when I was heavier. He didn’t exactly come out with it right away, but kept alluding to it until I finally got it.
At first, a few weeks ago, he stopped his car on his way home, leaned out his window and said I was looking leaner by the day. I fondled his two tiny dogs while we chatted about my Aikido training.
The Tyra Show just submitted a query asking for:
Do you have a body part that you absolutely hate and sometimes feel ashamed of? Are you constantly finding ways to cover it up or hide it? Do you always feel anxious whenever out in public, perhaps fearing that others are staring at you because of a self-perceived body flaw? If you have serious issues with one of your body parts, and wish you could change it, contact us.
I have many experiences as a child/young adult when I was to tall or felt out of place. I remember the first time I kissed a boy, on a dare of course, and I was taller then him and felt so uncomfortable. I suppose a good part of it was that I was doing something that maybe I shouldn’t however when you had to look down on the person to kiss them I would say that is really weird.
You don’t have to sleep with or have been raped by your dad to feel bad about yourself, your body or your sexuality. The Mackenzie Phillips revelation, while shocking, is more common that most of us would like to believe. 1 out of every 6 American women have been the victims of an attempted or completed rape in their lifetime (National Institute of Justice & Centers for Disease Control & Prevention. Prevalence, Incidence and Consequences of Violence Against Women Survey. 1998.).
Body image does not only effect women who feel they are overweight, underweight/skinny women are taunted also. In a community where curves are accepted and the more “bootylicious” the better I was constantly put down by family, friends, and acquaintances for being a size 0.
I never had an eating disorder but I did have a high metabolism and at 28 years old, 5′9, and shopping in the juniors department my body image really caused me to be insecure as an adult woman and a mother. I had no curves, no love handles, nothing about my body said I was a “woman”. Those insecure feelings kept me out of the public eye for a while until I was comfortable enough to embrace it and make it work for me.
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Today the world told me that I should leave my aches and pains to someone who really knows. Someone who has cancer, or a brain tumor, or whose leg has been chewed off by a wolf.
Today the world told me to let up a little, to not push so hard at doing. I ask myself, “What is rest?” And I must say he’s a poor acquaintance, and often unwelcome at my door.
Today the world told me that perhaps what I wish for is something not so big. A little loosening around the waist and eyes could be good, to let in a little more seeing and a little less thinking.
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